10 (Free) Tools to find out who You really are
“The moment of your conception marked an important, once-in-a-lifetime cosmic event. At that moment the Universe joined your Soul with a powerful story, the story of your life. The story of You is so unique that it has never been on the planet before and will never be on the planet again.” - Karen Curry Parker
The title is somewhat misleading as your true essence, who you really are, is “Pure & Infinite Consciousness”, having a “Human Experience”.
“You’re not a drop in the ocean, you’re the ocean in a drop” (Rumi)
Your body is a bio-energetic ‘vehicle’, your ‘car’ that you have at your disposal in this 3D reality, on this plane. The more you know about your car, the more you will be able to enjoy the journey. So what you’re about to find out is some qualities of your car, more precise, the qualities at the moment your car left the factory.
Any car technician, worldwide, can read all the specifications of your car when he has the VIN number (chassis number). Your birth details can be considered your unique code to unlock all the information about how you are originally designed. As above, so below.
I gathered 10 of the tools that can help you discover your strengths, your qualities and your patterns. In essence, all these tools provide you with information about your energetic blueprint.
As you dive into these different sources, you may find that there’s a lot of common ground (“fils rouges”). It’s mostly looking at the same core information but from a different perspective. Some tools are directly based on your birth date, others require taking a “quiz” or a “test”.
Before you start your discovery, some notes:
Do not identify with a pattern or a profile as you are the Whole. You are “not” your car. (Although we’re used to saying: “I’m parked over there”, “I have a flat tire”, …)
In some way, you are “all the patterns, all the types, all the profiles”, but some are more pronounced than others. That’s what makes you so unique.
This is just “information”, so, experiment with it, play with it. Don’t take anything seriously. Check and test and see if you find any validation in your daily life. Or not.
Look into the information as a source for growth, development, and expansion on the road to personal freedom.
Be aware of qualities or patterns you at first reject or don’t feel comfortable with. It can be shadows that you’re not aware of and that hold interesting lessons for you.
Have fun, enjoy!
1. HUMAN DESIGN (Birth Date + Hour + Place)
Human Design is often called the “new Astrology,” and the “intersection of science and spirituality.” Your Human Design is in fact your personal instruction manual. It’s a genius synthesis of Eastern and Western Astrology, the Chinese I’Ching, The Kabbalah, the Hindu Chakra System and Quantum Physics. Human Design is the main tool I use in all my interventions as a coach and also in my private encounters.
I recommend a Human Design reading for everyone as a starting point in their journey of self-discovery. You will learn about your Type, Strategy and Internal Authority that you can always rely on to make important decisions. The information you’ll receive is unique, no one will have ever told you before. And you’ll wish someone had told you before.
Get your free Human Design Chart here and/or contact me for a personal reading.
2. THE PATTERN (Birth Date + Hour + Place)
“The Pattern” is a free app which I found ‘astonishingly accurate’. Some call it even ‘scarily’ accurate. Although it’s based on astrology, there’s no mention of any Astro terminology. No Sun or Moon or Ascendants etc.
Besides your personal patterns, you can invite and connect with others (kinda social media), and find out valuable information about your relationship with your partner, kids, friends etc.
You can also opt to receive daily updates, which can also be mindblowing as to what’s exactly going on in your daily life. They recently added a ‘dating’ feature called “Connect”.
Start here.
3. LOVE STYLES (Quiz)
Are you an Avoider, a Pleaser, a Controller, a Victim or a Vacillator? You can learn a lot about your Love Style in this book or on the accompanying website.
You’ll find out how your childhood experiences influence what you expect from relationships, how you receive and express love, and how you respond to others in stressful interactions.
Doing the test with your partner if you’re married or in a relationship is an opportunity to quit the blaming game and start learning from each other’s love style.
Start here.
4. 16 PERSONALITIES (Quiz)
You may have seen mysterious acronyms like INTJ-A, ENFP-T, or ESTJ-A.
The website 16Personalities.com is indeed another great resource if you’re looking for a better understanding of how you operate in life, in your relations, and in your work.
There are a lot of interesting articles and you may enjoy sharing this “freakishly accurate” information with family, friends, and colleagues. The website is free and you can store your personal profile.
606,713,030 people have taken the test so far.
Start here.
5. MINDSET: FIXED vs GROWTH (Quiz)
Psychologist Carol Dweck, from Stanford University, was the first researcher to explore the idea of fixed and growth mindsets.
A growth mindset means that you believe your intelligence and talents can be developed over time. A fixed mindset means that you believe intelligence is fixed—so if you’re not good at something, you might believe you’ll never be good at it.
This most straightforward test can be a very powerful tool for self-improvement, especially if you have a fixed mindset. Do the test and learn how some simple changes can really affect your entire life.
Do the test here. Google “fixed growth mindset” to find a variety of interesting websites covering this phenomenon.
6. ENNEAGRAM (Birth Date)
The Enneagram (of Personality Types) is a modern synthesis of a number of ancient wisdom traditions. To be honest, I’m not a great fan of the system and in my work, I only use the Enneagram to look into the Child(hood) Trance.
(The very performant survival strategies we develop as a child to find love in a ‘hostile’ world. These subconscious strategies become our biggest saboteurs later in life. As long as we don’t unmantle them, we live a 100% predictable life)
If you’re already acquainted with the Enneagram, I have great news: chances are big that you’ve been working on the wrong ‘type’. Indeed, one of the weakest points is the different questionnaires that may lead you to a ‘desirable’ type.
Instead, just use your Life Path Number. This is calculated by adding all of the numbers in your birth date together and reducing the result to one single digit.
(e.g. 16.02.1966=> 1+6+0+2+1+9+6+6=31=>3+1=4 => TYPE 4)
You can start at the official website but I found this website better.
Contact me if you want to learn about your main Child(hood) Trance and how to reprogram it.
6. NUMEROLOGY (Birth Date)
“If you knew the magnificence of the 3, 6 and 9, you would have a key to the universe.”- Nikolas Tesla
I’ve been diving deep into numerology in the past and often now and then I check the meaning of this or that day or event. Basically, the numbers represent energies or energy patterns. You have the overall numbers, (eg the year 2022 is a year 2+0+2+2= “6”) and you have what is called your Personal Numbers. The first can be considered as a ‘global weather/energy forecast’, the latter as your ‘personal weather/energy forecast’. When you’re in a Personal Year 9 for instance, you better don’t start any new projects, relationships etc. A year 9 stands for ‘endings’ as 9 is the last number in the cycle. A Personal Year 1 on the contrary is ideal to initiate new projects, businesses, and relationships, as 1 stands for new beginnings.
There are countless websites where you can ask for free numerology reports or make all the calculations yourself. I found numerology.com and numerologist.com interesting websites.
7. GENE KEYS (Birth Date + Hour + Place)
While I’m a Human Design addict, I think it’s also interesting to take a look at The Gene Keys.
Richard Rudd was one of the first teachers of Human Design and then came up with the also fascinating ‘nephew’ of it.
Both share the same foundation, although the perspective and the teachings are quite different.
I recommend simply entering your birth details and getting your free personal report. It’ll be worth navigating through your hologenetic profile and finding out some headlines about your essence (Siddhi), your gifts, your challenges (shadow) and so much more.
Start here
8. AYURVEDA - DOSHAS (Quiz)
This typology is of a whole different kind and is more linked to your health and wellbeing.
In Ayurveda, each of us has a unique mind-body type, known as a dosha. Think of a dosha as your individual blueprint that describes your unique personality, tendencies, and physical nature. Understanding your dosha reveals how to keep yourself in balance to stay happy, healthy and disease-free.
Although I didn’t really study Ayurveda, I found it quite interesting to learn more about the doshas and the typical health - & food (diet) prescriptions.
I found www.ayurvedaforbeginners.com an interesting site where you can do the test and get more information.
9. EROTIC BLUEPRINT (Quiz)
Let’s finish with Love and Pleasure. Or maybe you’ll start with this quiz… While doing my research for this blog, I discovered that the Erotic Blueprint test recently has become very popular thanks to the Netflix series “Sex, Love & Goop”. I learned about the Erotic Blueprint test when it was launched a couple of years ago and found it quite pertinent and revealing.
Meanwhile, 1,125,815 people already discovered their Erotic Blueprint, through the test developed by ‘Somatic sexologist’ Jaiya.
You can do a quick test for free to discover if you’re “Sensual”, “Energetic”, “Kinky”, “Sexual” or a “Shapeshifter”. Or you can “Get All the Juicy Details of Your Erotic Blueprint Type & Personalized Pleasure Profile” for just 17$.
Start your pleasure here.
Thank you for sharing your comments, your questions, and/or your own experiences in the comments below. You can also contact me to further explore one or more topics.
With Love & Gratitude,
Stephan